Posted by: Lori Schmidt Lutze | March 31, 2010

Party Etiquette 101

Let’s think for a moment about how to more fully enjoy one of life’s greatest pleasures:  the party.  Show me a person who doesn’t love a party and I’ll tell you Joyce doesn’t like them very much.  And neither do you.  An anti-party person flies in the face of everything that Joyceland represents.  Parties are what Joycelanders live for and so, today, it is fitting that we spend a few minutes in the School of Joyce.   The SOJ is open 24/7 and is housed at the University of Good Times/Don’t Let Yourself Get Old.  It can be attended by anyone and everyone.  All are invited, but not everyone graduates.  Many are mediocre students.  Pause and consider the truth of these words. 

Are you happy being average or are you looking to earn an ‘A’ from life and Joyce?  Let’s separate the wheat from the chaff, shall we?  In order to excel in the School of Joyce, one must learn proper post-party protocol.  Or PPPP.  Word of warning:  when attempting to pass along PPPP to others, they may think you need to use the restroom unless you clarify.

So . . . take out your notepad, maxi pad, or iPad . . .

. . . and get ready to jot down some critically important points:

1.  Party participation can be likened to making a pilgrimage.  At parties and on pilgrimages, there is a sense of community and a search for significance.  People gather together, drink of the waters, and healing may occur.  It is the sense of community and healing that must be emphasized as we consider proper post-party protocol.

2.  When a party ends, it is critical for the community of attenders to engage in post-party e-mail banter or PPEB.  It’s proper etiquette.  Do not argue about this.  Within 24 hours of a party’s conclusion, one attendee needs to initiate the fun and create an e-mail message that goes out to all attendees reflecting on the good times and frivolity that took place.  A little sassiness is always welcome, too, in the PPEB.  When attenders read the first e-mail summarizing the good times that took place at the party, everyone is reminded of how they gathered together, drank of the waters, and were healed.  The first post-party e-mail makes people feel delicious.  And it’s protocol, then, for all attenders to Reply to All and add their recollections of the party.  Soon, as you can see, inboxes are filled with hilarity and BFF-ness, warm feelings abound, and attendees can patiently wait until the next party because the post-party e-mail banter may go on for days.  Do you see what I’m saying?  People live for this type of thing.   

CASE STUDY:  Olivia recently attended a party and had a smashing time.  Within 24 hours she took initiative and sent out the first post-party e-mail.  Her writing was witty and sassy.  But alas, none of her fellow attendees added in their recollections and hit Reply to All.  As a result, BFF-ness was shortchanged and warm feelings quickly subsided.  

UNIT TEST:  After reading today’s case study, what have you learned?  Don’t be mediocre—-share your pearls of party wisdom with fellow classmates in Joyce’s comment section . . . . let’s see how many sassy comments we can gather today . . .



  1. Funny, funny, funny – you write well!

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